Vulnerable Defined

1 : capable of being physically or emotionally wounded

2 : open to attack or damage : assailable <vulnerable to criticism

3 : liable to increased penalties but entitled to increased bonuses after winning a game in contract bridge

So Ladies…does this definition of vulnerable make you want to open up to a man and let your guard down? Let’s be serious – the concept of being vulnerable doesn’t have a positive connotation in Western culture? Does it?

So many women, and men too for that matter, find themselves hiding behind the illusion of their pseudo-selves in relationships and then become confused when they lose themselves in the long run. Due to cultural expectations, we enter our relationships with this mask of falsehood believing that we are somehow inadequate in our current state of being. Thus, to reveal our truest selves – our desires, fears, phobias, adequacies and competencies becomes something that causes us to feel vulnerable.

Sad…and according to the definition above – who the hell wants to be vulnerable anyway? Certainly not me! But let’s not talk about me. This article is about those of us who feel victimized by everything including husbands, boyfriends, wives and girlfriends, parents, governments, bosses, children, banks – you name it!

To convince this group to become more vulnerable seems senseless, unless we plan to do some serious re-education starting here:  The feeling of being “susceptible” to physical or emotional harm is an ILLUSION.  

How can I say this? Because life itself is an illusion!  We have come to realize, well many of us, that humans are much more than simply physical beings – we are actually energetic beings – celestial travelers, having or choosing a physical experience.

If I sound a bit “New Agey” just ask the Quantum Scientists who cannot trace thinking to the brain but have found that thinking originates in each cell and each nerve of the body. Not only is the mind no longer the seat of what scientists have proclaimed for centuries to be the thinking unit but Quantum Science has now “discovered” that thinking is the act of creation itself rather than us thinking because of creation.  Scientists have realized that our thinking causes creation.

So then…what would it mean to be vulnerable or feel intimidated about getting hurt in our relationships?  Progressive Love is simple, we don’t get hurt – we create each experience for the purpose of growth and development!  So what does it mean when we anticipate being hurt or rejected? It simply means we have a virus in the hard drive which creates the feeling of fear when we encounter love.  Time to debug!

Feeling vulnerable, then, is not a justifiable way to explain away the need to be real in your relationship. Rather, the fear of feeling exposed is simply a belief that needs to be shifted in order for humans to evolve. In fact, this shift is upon us!

So much of what we describe in terms of the ways that we feel when it comes time to be vulnerable and exposed in our relationships is about the fear of that feeling.  Well what about the amazing beauty that comes when we open up, ask for what we want, place ourselves “out there”?

We don’t want to need anyone!

But science now tells us that humans and all the physical things on earth ARE LITERALLY ONE, so of course we need one another. Just as the brain needs the heart to do it’s job in order for the brain to survive, we too are hardwired to need each other. This concept will soon become more acceptable. In the New Paradigm, we must express these pent up emotions we feel when we sense a strong need for a man to protect us, love us and admire our beauty or a woman to support us, respect us or birth our dreams into reality!

Women will have to accept feelings or desire – and be fearless in getting them satisfied – so we can feel magical enough to create a new internal landscape upon which will be built the new Earth! Men will have to embrace feelings of needing validation – and be fearless about getting them met – so he can feel strong enough to re-create the physical plane.

This is about science! And it applies to women and men everywhere. It is time for the entire world to be vulnerable!  It is a shame that the dictionary describes this state as: assailable, or open to attack – but it just exposes the old paradigm for what it is – worn out and in need of repair.

• What if men could ask women to understand their need to have intimacy with other women?
• What if women could ask men to understand their need to have a committed union, to be taken care of completely?
• What if children could ask parents to let them make some mistakes and love them anyway?
• What if Bush could ask Iraq to just give us some oil and understand that our economy runs on it and to have mercy on us? (post written in 2008) lol
• What if parents could ask the children to please take care of them in their old age and say often that it’s going to be OK?
• What if Whites could ask the Blacks to please, realizing your vast skill set and your inclination to be spiritually adept, just understand our fear of you and comfort us – we want to know you are not angry?
• What if Blacks could ask Whites to simply just let go of the past and please explore the depth of why your hated so deeply and just merge with us and move on, we need to know you will never try human ownership again?
• What if all races could say…”I want to forgive the past and move on to a new world. Will you let it come with me?”

I could go on and on but I know that tonight I will have to go home and prove myself? That is just how writing is. I will be tested because I wrote this and so I owe the muse!  I’ll have to show and prove whenever I speak to others about how they should be living and adapting in the New Paradigm. I will have to be vulnerable with my husband and I will have to tell him the truth. To ask him to understand me and tell him that I am fearful and that I need daily reassurance. That I need to hear certain words and that I love him and that I only become upset when I can’t control him. Assure him that I am working on it. I won’t be able to blame him for ANYTHING. Ouch… this vulnerability thing is a real pinch in the ass!

Yes being vulnerable does make me assailable but only if I believe that my character can be smashed and my reputation controlled by others or that other people’s thoughts can jump into my body and do me harm.  If I truly believe to the contrary, that nothing is against me, then vulnerability is my friend.  It opens me to other that I might receive exactly what I need, want and desire in life!

I don’t believe I have to protect myself anymore. And even if I feel hurt or disappointed by another’s actions, I quickly snap into the mode of honoring my body’s alarm system and begin releasing those feelings – I know they are simply another part of the illusion and that I have full control over how I feel – I choose to feel however I want to feel. Is it easy? Yes and No – It depends on whether you believe in the idea that something can be difficult beyond the feeling or choice of such in the mind creating the experience…

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Kenya K Stevens, CEO JuJuMama