What should you do when your lover won’t behave well?

• Do we break up with a beloved who seems to have ‘problems’?
• Do we stay and work out the issues and take the heat from friends and family?
• Can your lover’s bad habits be reconciled in some way?

The answers to these questions depend on how you view life.  Are you a Victim in life or Co-Creator of your relationship?  There is only one way to make a bad relationship good, it requires penetrating insight into Universal Laws.  The easy out – or running away – will never do the trick.  You’ll just run right to another situation that will challenge you again to work out your own issues.

For every effect, there is a cause.  This is the most basic Universal Law.  Use it when in a bind with your honey:

Tonight I was speaking with a very sexy friend of mine.  She has been working on her relationship with the support of JujuMama Love Coaching for the past two years.  When she first came to us, she had broken up with her beloved and was spying on him, checking his email and listening in at his apartment door.

She thought there was no hope of reconciliation because she had crossed the line.  She loved this man but felt he may never measure up as a husband due to his selfishness.

Of course when we first spoke she blamed him for the situation casting him as a no good bastard with a bad temper.  She blamed him for the fights, arguments, and so forth claiming that he had cursed her out one too many times.

I beckoned her to look at the fact that he was actually a reflection of her own bad temper, and selfishness.  To every effect there is a cause and every action has an equal and opposite reaction…

This of course pissed her off because she claimed he was the reason for her bad temper.  So the first thing we did together is discover the fact that there is a cause to every effect.  We aren’t simply victims to the bad temper of another; we are creator of them.

What?!!!!  How?!!!!

We create the bad temper of another by having a bad temper ourselves, or by expecting based on the past that partners have bad tempers (maybe a parent had a bad temper, and so we create others based on this template of love).  She had to see her own reflection and so the Universe sent her male counterpart!

Every situation we experience we have played a role in creating it; most find it difficult to accept we are creating our entire lives!  It seems like a lot of damned responsibility with no one to blame – ouch!

It is time to awaken to the real facts of the matter.  If this lady wants him to change, she has to change.  But first she has to believe that she too has the same issues as he…now that is tough!

Once she found the root to her anger, began working on controlling her own temper – even as a response to his. She had him humming the tune of love again.  Today, two years later, they are married!  Besides JujuMama’s coaching… she tried two of our programs – Cn28 and Cn365 and they worked for her!  She is so glad that she didn’t kick him to the curb when she thought she should, when all of her friends were telling her that she must!

As she changed…  He equally became more relaxed, selfless and sweet.  He became the opposite of who he used to be.  She injected a new cause and found a new effect!

You can do it too!  Here is the exercise.

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Cioa!

Kenya K Stevens, CEO

JujuMama’s Love Academy