Today I will tell you something true. Women will always want more. We want MORE. We will always, always, always want MORE… This is a good thing.
But how do we get the more we seek?
#1 RAISE YOUR VIBRATION
Imagine you are listening to 99.5 on the radio but now you want more jazz and less hip-hop. How do you get what you want? Seems simple, right, you simply change the radio dial up a few notches until you reach 107.5 smooth jazz. Great.
Love is this way as well. Let us say you are currently in a relationship that simply is not meeting your needs. You do not feel happy, in fact your mad as hell most of the time. Why not change the channel – get more of what you want?
Welcome to the Fab Five Lacing Experiment. As all of you know, I am Kenya Kay – JujuMama – Relationship Guru – Advocate for the Re|Feminine|Nation of Women – And Magical DIVA! My powers include working with woman to heal, fix, mend, or save any relationship.
I am currently looking for five fabulous women to test out my Lacing Process combined with Relationship Rescue which is a new process I have been working on for a few years.
If you are in a relationship that is flailing, failing, or being hampered by known or unknown ‘issues’, you are the perfect candidate for this experiment. I can only take FIVE women. This service will be delivered to you 100% free of charge.
I will work with you personally to heal your life from the inside out such that you attract or receive exactly what you desire in love…
Here is my hypothesis: I believe that by working with ONLY the woman in a failing relationship that we can shift the energy of ANY love scenario and effect ANY relationship to work harmoniously! The man will not be informed about this process at all! Any woman can change ANY man by making pointed changes in her own functioning, thoughts and beliefs. No words needed…
Read on for contest details…
So I did the deed. Last week I held a national call where people could talk to me (FREE of charge – LOL!) about their break ups. I have no mercy. I quickly went into intuitive mode and broke down each of these break ups. I do not stand for Continue reading
As you know, my Dad taught me to write! Cool. I found it really cool that my Dad reads my blog. Now my Dad and I have a great relationship, but he was upset by a few of the things he found here while perusing over 45 posts I have done since last year. My posts can be racy and informative, sexy and New Age…but for sure I think he gets a dose of worry when he considers the things going on in my wonderful life.
Maybe you can help me out on how in handling this situation. Check out a few of his opinions on my post… read his take and leave me a heartfelt comment.
What stuck out most is that my Dad believes that my blogs shine a bad light on me. He said I may not be a good role model and that my stuff is just ‘out there’ in terms of this open relationship piece, and especially the Valentine’s Day story. He said that people need a role model, they need to know that I am perfect or at least faking at perfect.
My Dad feels that clients can not come to a coach who has challenges.
Well Dad, I appreciate that. I see you as my mirror, I must somewhere inside be thinking the same thing. However, I am not down with the school of thought that says follow only those who are perfect.
A.) Because it is not working! B.) Because Perfect is not a noun, it is a verb. Evolution is the only form of Perfection I have ever known…
Perfect, in my book, means ever evolving. We all face challenges. The trouble with life coaching, psychological counseling is that often we have the idea that an expert is someone with no challenges…
I believe that Erectile Illiteracy (yes, my term, don’t hate, appreciate) is not a physical illness. To be clear, I do not believe in physical illnesses at all! Cancer, heart disease, herpes, none of these are what modern scientist believe they are! I believe that body illness happens when the Continue reading
T is a good friend who reads my blogs religiously. She told me in a comment that she needs to hear a love story. So for her, I offer this love story. I have a few on this blog (check this one out – How I met and married Carl), but mostly I write about the Purpose of Love and the Bliss that comes from living that purpose…I have not always been such a good wife to my hubby, my mission is to aid other women in releasing control the way I have had to over the years. Release is heaven!
I know that every comment, every person who migrates over to JujuMama has something to teach me – you ARE me! So I heed your words…here goes… My Reston, Virginia Love Story…
New paradigm thought is not like the old stuff. Gone are the days when we could cut the fool all week and then go to church on Sunday to be ‘forgiven’. That is a dying school of thought that lacks the component of human beings take 100% responsibility for the creation of LIFE. New Paradigm Thought does not suggest the absence of a higher power. It simply denotes the fact that a higher power infused itself into us and placed us here to grow through experiences to achieve heaven on Earth rather than after death… (no such thing as death, then?)
Here are a few remnants of that dying thing called the Western Relationship Paradigm with the emerging counterparts:
Lets begin with the obvious. You chose that lover of yours now didn’t you? When things get hard, which they will, the first thing we do as Westerners is blame the other person or blame ourselves! Neither of these are going to work much longer. As Aquarius makes her way back to Earth, we are drawn in a new, sexy, direction.
Taking 100% responsibility for the situation is so liberating!
Often clients say ‘Well, Kenya K, why should I take 100% responsibility – isn’t that man or that woman 50% of the problem if not more?’. My response to them is simple. New Paradigm thought [which is actually ancient, holistic thought] is based on the fact that we all exist in our own Universe – Parallel Universes! My Universe is MINE. Everything that happens to me is a part of my Universe. Everything that happens to my mate is occurring in his Universe. So, in essence, when some shit goes down, we both have 100% responsibility for it.
When we view life in this way, we are making room for the obvious – World Peace!
Check this out…My “shamefully evolved” weekend story!
This discussion took place on one of my nationwide phone calls. It really went deeply into the topics of Open Relationships, Swinging, Monogamy and Compersion. We discussed the fact that it has been more acceptable in the past for women to settle with a man who has many women, Continue reading
Pertaining to the Chris Brown vs Rihanna domestic “abuse” case: If Rihanna were my client right now here is what we would do.
First, we would not tag her a victim. The more we focus on fighting for a cause, the larger that thing we are fighting against becomes! That is basic Continue reading
So a few weeks ago I posted an article about a Cheating man. First off, ‘cheating’ is a stupid word. I mean WTF does that mean? Cheating implies that we are playing a game in the first place. Games are just that! Relationships are not games. Come on!
Let us address the article and comments…
So in summary, this man was talking about how he ‘cheats’ on his wife and will never stop, end of story. He said that he never wanted to be married or domesticated and that this woman had simply leashed him to conform to societal norms as a bi-product of her need to control.
He had gone along willingly because he truly loves his woman and wants to see her happy. And do not get him wrong, he too is ‘happy’. A devoted family man, and provider, but he desires moments ‘out’. It helps him feel OK with things. He thinks it is only fair and that she never has to know…
Read this man’s initial post here…
Come back when you are done to check theses reader comments.
Damia Said:
Its good to hear this from the “horses mouth.” I believe his point of view is very common. I was not upset by it because I sometimes feel the same way. However, being a woman of child bearing years, I still desire the “support” and “security” of a marriage in which to have children. Does having this mean I alienate the man I love or who loves me? Perhaps there should be an annual review or something to determine whether the relationship is still serving our needs. Not sure, just a few thoughts…
JujuMama: I agree Damia! To desire support and security is normal for women. Men love to provide this, but what does security have to do with his penis? Uh Oh – Yes, I went there. Many women have been trained since youth to desire a man love ONLY us. Conditioned by lots of foolish tales called Soap Operas, Sit-Coms, and so forth, this has always been a sticky point - releasing the need to control.
I found in marriage that security and support flow when I allow my man to lead. Women cannot expect men to secure a Independent Minded Diva! LOL! For our first 11 years together, I was boss! Many women do not receive a leading man very well. At year 12 I gave up my female penis and gave him back the pants. Talk about alienation, my man was on the verge of going nuts by the time I was done with him. “Secure me baby, but follow my damned orders…” Confusing.
Once I surrendered, I thought he was going to feel better about the relationship and he did. However, he also began to find more interest in women! What?! I was pissed off! I thought that allowing him to lead would look like getting my way and just allowing him to think he is the boss. When he began leading us based on what he considered to be our best interest, I flipped! Now what does this have to do with a Cheating man?
Dig it…It seems odd that women want a sensitive, homebody of a man and a Gangsta Lovah wrapped into one! Not that it does not exist, but…The harder the man, the more women he will attract – point blank period!
