Pertaining to the Chris Brown vs Rihanna domestic “abuse” case: If Rihanna were my client right now here is what we would do.
First, we would not tag her a victim. The more we focus on fighting for a cause, the larger that thing we are fighting against becomes! That is basic Law of Attraction – What we focus on expands…
Rather we would focus on the significance – the Quantum significance – of the ‘situation’. We would seek to discover how she created this ‘situation’. In this way we can actually stave off future manifestations of violence. Click away if you think I am going to allow either Rihanna or Chris to be made Victim or Villain here.
Not going to happen.
Sit in on our session:
So let us begin, Rihanna. You have attracted the beautiful and talented Chris Brown as your boyfriend. Awesome! Love it! So how long have they been together? What has been the situation up to this point? Do you love him? Why? What do you love about him? What have been some of the major issues here? Violence prior?
Once we have the background on the relationship we’d begin to dig to the root of the matter. What was you childhood like? Both parents together, fighting in the home, peaceful? Did you father abuse mother, you, siblings? What do you know about Chris’ background? What was his home life like in youth? Have you met the parents? Do they like you?
Time out. Does anyone look at these facts when analyzing an isolated or streaming event of violence? No, I beg your pardon. How could I insinuate that there is any good reason for violence? How could I imply this psycho babble as a way to deal with the ‘situation’. Easy. We are each creating our lives. We create with the 88% of us that is sub-conscious. If we have a history of violence, abuse, or mistreatment, we will always, until we uproot the past from our minds, create more of it. Somewhere we actually like it.
But the main stream woman curses me out: Don’t blame the victim! Kenya K, nothing they could have possibly been through together or ‘attracted’ out of one another is good reason for this woman to be hurt and bleeding in the hospital. I know. I know. Mine is an [old] new vantage point. We create our lives! Plain and simple. JujuMama happens to have the science on how that works for ‘good’ and ‘bad’.
Back to session with Rihanna.
Rihanna, it is time to understand how you created this. I feel for you girl, I have been there myself. I created loads of violence in my marriage. My husband has almost killed me on many occasions, but today I stand a free woman having found the root and the ways I had been creating this behavior in my life. Try to understand that we are going to find the mirrors here – we are going to find the root causes of this situation. A.) So that you can create something NEW and B.) So that if you want to continue your relationship with Chris (highly likely) you can with the know how you need to shift this situation and make it look however you want it to look. Rihanna, I refuse to take sides and I refuse to pass judgment. We are going to do something very progressive here – you down?
OK – so let us begin with the facts of your current relationship:
Clue # 1:
Us reports the couple [often] squabbled over infidelity. A source tells Us Brown accused Rihanna of having an affair with Timbaland; a friend of the producer responds that he and Rihanna and the producer only “saw each other for two seconds.”
OK – so we have a little mix up here. Is it true that you had an affair with Timberland. This is not a problem (I personally believe that we should all be able to have sex with whomever we desire, but anyway), we just need to know the truth. The reason this is important is that if you are addicted to drama (maybe you saw LOADS of drama in youth and this is just a repeating pattern) then you will want to shift that addiction using my special tools, namely Lacing. Anyone can get a four hour Lacing Session with JujuMama here at the Love Academy!
So tell me all about the cheating. Why does he feel you were cheating, did you lead him to believe this or is it true or is it tabloid crap? Good girl. Thank you for your honesty. We are going to heal your world up baby!
Us reports that after the party Brown was angered when his credit card didn’t work at a gas station and sped off in his rented Lamborghini at a high speed.
Does Brown have an anger management issue? If so how does it show up? Who does this remind you of from your past? Have you had past boyfriends who are this way? How often have you created this ‘type’ in your life.
Rihanna: What does this have to do with my healing?
Well, there are six billion people in the world. We attract those who come into our lives based on our vibration. If we are vibrating a love for drama – have a love for angry men – or are an angry woman – then we attract ANGER every time without fail, and each time we get to feel affirmed and comfortable. Comfortable because this is the habit. We have developed a habit for drama and angry men and it feels good in a rather sick way when we have one. Luscious. Right? Oh I have been there. No worries…
So I will ask you – when is the first time you found a man behaving this way with you – was it in youth? OK – no one you can think of. How did your Dad behave with your mom? Oh, OK, her boyfriends, how did her boyfriend behave with her?
[Keep in mind this is a fictional story - I have not had session with Rihanna]
Us reports that Rihanna saw one of Brown’s ex-girlfriend’s numbers in his phone and flew into a rage that sparked the violent incident.
Rihanna, what happened on the evening of the fight? Did you become irate about Brown’s past lover? You can tell me, I recall being in college and slapping a man’s face while he was driving the car because his X-girlfriend called – yes – I was a hell cat! What really happened girl?
Do you have an issue with anger – is Brown reflecting you? How do you manage anger? Have you ever hit Brown? Have you ever threatened him with cheating or breaking up with him? Have you ever destroyed his property – I had to ask, I saw your video. You burned the man’s clothing? Remember that one?
Rihanna and I would go on this way until we dug out each root in her mind that creates the expectation that
A. Men are violent
B. Men are Angry
C. Women get rowdy as a defense to angry men
D. Women have to be rowdy from jump to keep him in check
E. Break up to make up is sexy
F. I can only be vulnerable after a fight
G. I only feel loved when he jacks me up
H. I can not conceive of drama free love
These are all the basics – I would need Rihanna to fill in the blanks. Do not get me wrong. These patterns are VERY VERY VERY normal in American, Carribean, Mexican, even European women – these are the basic markers of a culture so violent and male based that sensual energy is on the wane. No problem. Rihanna is not a bad person and nor is Chris. They can still have a great relationship. This is the WORK of relating! In fact, they are perfect for one another! I love it! No need to run and hide from challenges. I have to go get my hair done now and will complete this article with my [fictitious] session with Chris Brown a little later! Enjoy!
And again, I am not suggesting that the pair just get back together with no strategy to work on the relationship. They both need a process of healing and that begins with taking 100% responsibility for the situation – each of them 100%. They should get coaching from JujuMama and so should you if you’re experiencing violence or trauma in your relatinship.
Kenya K Stevens