This discussion took place on one of my nationwide phone calls. It really went deeply into the topics of Open Relationships, Swinging, Monogamy and Compersion. We discussed the fact that it has been more acceptable in the past for women to settle with a man who has many women, while women who desire many men have been relegated to the ‘whore’ label. LOL!
We spoke about the ancient roots of matriarchal rule as opposed to patriarchal rule. And most importantly we explored several formats for relationships that might be possibilities for couples today who are ready for something that works.
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Where do I start………
First, MEN should not be intervied on this because the WOMEN are the ones who receive them! It is up to US not the MEN. The Goddess was FIRST. She has the men, meaning they come from HER. This topic should be totally about WOMENS liberation and men dont have anything to do with that. We are the CHOOSERS of who we receive in our wombs. We have to STOP asking MEN about issues that concern our wombs. Matriarchy once RULED the world and Men were not seen as the END ALL BE ALL in this matter. If we want to have the perks of that type of society then we have to LIVE in a Matriachal society. Since we live in Patriarchal society then these topics really are mute. They had a system to deal with assets and the children coming from these unions. Here there is little to no wealth being built in our families and our children are running a muck.
Second..If we all want to sleep with who we want to and act single then Don’t make a covenant with another person. How is a temporary roll in the sack with another man or woman, adding to the wealth of your family and heling you raise strong productive children. Sex is very spirital and if you know that then YOU WILL NOT share your sexual energy with anyone. Women are dying because they are sleeping with sick men with sick dna and sick mentalities.. Becasue you are attracted to someone does not mean you have to act on it.
63% of people going out of the relationship has nothing to do with monogamy. It is soley becasue THIS SOCIETY teaches MEN that they have to get as much “choocie” as they can to be a man. Men sleeping with numerous women is NOT his NATURAL STATE. It is what he was taught. His penis has taken the place of his intellect and self esteem. Women sleeping with numerous men is NOT her natural state. Allowing all types of men to drop thier seed in you in spirtal suicide.
None Orgasmic women. This also is not a monogomy issue. This has to do with women not knowing WHO SHE IS and how she is still taught to be SUBJECT to a man. Her mentality is off about love, life and her sexuality. Her needs are rarely met because women are seen as NOTHING in this society. Her sleeping with other men will not give her self worth nor teach her how to be feminine. On the flip side being more feminine will not gurantee your mate to only look at you. Again just becaue you like honey does not mean you go tip toeing in the bees honey nest..LOL
To be very honest, MOST men will not like their women to sleep with another man. It does a blow to their ego. YET THEY WANT WOMEN TO BE OK WITH THEM SLEEPING WITH OTHER WOMEN..LOL. Some men are Territorial. They will NEVER allow a man to come partake of their sweet garden. So the convo changes when we talk abotu womens sexual freedom. See as long as the men were doing it, women were to be ok with it. I mean after all “he is a man’ NOW that WOMEN are seeking gratiification in other men, she is looked at as a whore..smh
Lets be real…if you come to a man telling him you want another man to “hit” it. That man will have a FIT! Most men will NOT be ok with it..LOL There is so much pressure on men to PERFORM and have A Certain Penis Size. He wil NOT SLEEP WELL thinking that another mans penis is bigger than his and you may like having sex with another man over him….LOL
Open relationships may not be for everyone. My friend is having relationship problems, and so I thought I would read up on some advise. In the book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, by J J Smith, I learned about Open Relationships and lots more too. Although this is just a section in the book it was very informative and helped me decide if an open relationship will work for me….and the verdict is… probably not…LOL
For her, fine whatever it works, but not me… maybe I just don`t have the confidence but it seems to be the trend in these days in age.
What I hear others saying is these are my boundaries, can you honor them? Regardless of whether you are in a monogamous, polyamorous or other relationship.
The conflict arises when honoring one set of boundaries conflicts with living within another set of boundaries.
I feel that monogamy is failing as a system not because it is a failed system or unnatural. Currently, humanity is in a phase of quickening, so we are evolving faster. This is busting the normal seams of current monogamous relationships. Forcing finding of alternative means of accommodating the evolving changes.
Countries that have freedom as their mandate will experience this quickening at an accelerated rate. All the segregation and separation that we have experience over the millenia is coming to an end. Boundaries are being smashed and created anew, smashed and created again.
Throughout this ocean of change, there are a few things we can hang on to.
any guesses.
When I was younger I used to believe in free and open rships. On some level I still do ~ for other people not me. I think as a younger (under 40) woman I really hadn't opened myself to love, commitment, myself and working on a rship. Until I found my partner had cheated on my and everything came crashing down. On some level it was the best thing that happened because it made both of us aware how unaware we had been in our 11 yr rship.
Good luck to anyone who has the awareness and evolvement to have the time for an open rship. I find it journey enough to be in rship with one person, let alone another.
I feel with the changes in the world open rships will become more mainstream, as part of growth and finding oneself. Whether or not it works is another thing.