Today I will tell you something true. Women will always want more. We want MORE. We will always, always, always want MORE… This is a good thing.
But how do we get the more we seek?
#1 RAISE YOUR VIBRATION
Imagine you are listening to 99.5 on the radio but now you want more jazz and less hip-hop. How do you get what you want? Seems simple, right, you simply change the radio dial up a few notches until you reach 107.5 smooth jazz. Great.
Love is this way as well. Let us say you are currently in a relationship that simply is not meeting your needs. You do not feel happy, in fact your mad as hell most of the time. Why not change the channel – get more of what you want?
Life is about Vibration. Whatever you are channeling in the form of your current thoughts, moods, and energy is just what you will be attracting from the people around you (The premise of my first book, Change Your Man). So here you are vibrating a certain resonance… Right now maybe it’s anger, fear, envy, depression, whatever! It is OK.
Now how the hell are you supposed to feel better and vibrate better when he is still doing stupid stuff to piss you off? How will you feel better when all you can think about is the anger and resentment. I am not going to tell you to meditate, go to the mountains, or have an expensive message (oh, that sounds good). What I advise cost nothing, and is really simple. It works to shift your vibration really quickly to achieve the MORE you crave, so here goes:
FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT!!
What does that mean? OK, back to the radio dial. You are on 99.5 – angry, pissed, aggravated and sullen. Your desires are on 107.5 – joyous, cheerful, happy, fulfilled and receiving BLISS (yes, from him, YES HE CAN)! So you have to change the station. How do you do that? You shift your vibration! How do you do that? You fake the attitude and behavior that you would be experiencing if he were doing the right thing! YES! When you fake it, the smile, the good cheer, the open arms and sensual energy – you will immediately begin to see that the world responds to you… Eventually, he will respond to you. When you Fake It, you allow your natural inner joy to effect your environment. No it is not easy, but it is really fun.
In this culture we have not learned this art. We are taught that if you feel a certain way, you just feel that way. We are not taught dominion over the emotions. But here at the Love Academy we teach this! Join Cn28 to learn to harness your moods! Emotions are good, but they have to be channeled. If we had learned this in childhood, it would feel like second nature. Emotions do not have to control your moods, the only reason they do sometimes is that they are very powerful and we have not learned to channel them.
This is not for the faint of heart. This takes setting a powerful intention to change your current vibration. If you like it, use it! This is a little trick that I sometimes pull when my relationship is not going the way I would have crafted it to go. The larger the negative emotion, the more difficult this trick will become. I fake it until I make it whenever I can. Maybe you may like it too…
Note | Faking it does not mean brushing over the Issues. It simply means raising your vibration so that the issues appear differently and can be handled harmoniously.
Love and Lite
Kenya K
PS – This is not pass fail. You will be able to do this sometimes, and other times you will not. Do not ever be critical – Love is a journey not a destination…
This post is jam-packed with excellent information, punctuated by the short yet poignant wisdom that “Love is a journey not a destination.” Me loves it. hehe
Maybe I missed the whole point of the blog, because if the first couple of paragraphs, so if I did I apologize. But in case, I didn’t let me provide a slight challenge to something you wrote, and hear your response. You said, women always want more, and that’s a good thing. I would argue that is in fact one of the problems in relationships. This idea that you can find something better than you have. That’s the grass is greener, and if I think positive and have good “energy” the universe will bring the greener grass to me. If you always look over the horizon how can you know what you have in your life now, how can you appreciate it? I may be sensitive to this because of events in my own life, but I think when you get most or all that you want, you stop looking over the horizon. You stop wanting more than you have, because its very likely that you won’t find something better at all. I know that flies in the face of the much of the Universe is all abundant advice out in the world today, but I really believe that the Universe takes a dim view toward individuals that wish, hope, and try to bring a blessing into their lives, and then ungratefully leave it when they get it.
Joe – I promised you a response… Wanting more is what the Universe wants every day – that is why life is a continuum rather than a linear process. (No beginning no end) Wanting more is not the problem. Losing one’s peace in that expansive quest is the issue. Just because I always desire more, due to the fact that I am an evolving being (expanding with as the Universe expands), does not mean that I have to lose my peace in the here and now…
Granted, you are right. Many women desire more, but have not been taught to manifest it. Thus, the desire for more is a painful pull leading to ignorant behavior and yes, even sometimes we have little appreciation for what we have already created (manifested) in life…
I agree.
However, that quest for more is like steam, rising, always looking for the next place to go, it is like snowflakes, none of them are the same, why? The Universe always wants the next experience, no repeats.
Did you know that nothing that has EVER happened on the planet has happened the same way twice, that is a clue to the Universal Law which requires that we will always be growing – always wanting more from ourselves, from others, it is like the carrot being dangled in front of our face – “Get More…Come and Get It”.
Those of us who can see understand that chasing the Carrot is not a blind and youthful process, chasing the carrot requires MUCH MUCH MUCH growth. That carrot is being dangled over mountains, lakes, we have to swim to get it, fly to get it and WOW – now we can FLY!!! And once we are fast enough to catch that one, strong enough to capture the prize, our eyes are set on the next prize which keeps us ever evolving. I LOVE the desire for MORE combined with the feeling of Peace in the process…you?
So MORE or a quest for more is a quest for expansion…It is a Universal Quest. An altruistic quest.
The issue in this piece is that I wanted more from him NOW NOW NOW!!! I was chasing the carrot of a nice evening, but that carrot was moving faster than my vibration at the time. SO I had to raise my vibration to catch the carrot. IT GREW ME! wow – loving this…
Women in the new thought frame of mind know that he is not responsible for delivering the MORE; Indeed, he cannot deliver MORE! WE – he and I together have to bring forth the more. I have to play my role and he will play his. Women are the power center in the home, men are the leaders in the home. One duty is physical and one is metaphysical. If I play my metaphysical role, the physical falls into place…
If I stagnate and get real stubborn and want my man to do the YIN work for me – prove to me, show me, coddle to me, emote with me, cater to me and take all of the brunt for me, then I will never feel satisfied – because I will never get the MORE I seek. Essentially my lack of satisfaction (based on the fact that I do not know how to attract what I want) would lead me to becoming disgruntled with my man and yes, alas, I would leave. But leaving will never solve the problem.
The issue is learning to catch the carrot! Learning to do it in a YIN way if you are female…
We may as well stay and play with that man, practicing using our feminine power to manifest until it is fully online – at which time we can create him and life in general however we want it to be… AND be peaceful in the duration as we patiently and knowingly await our bounty!
Hope this helps…
That is why I fake it – I have to raise my vibration enough to catch the carrot – no more no less.
Hi Joe I feel you on this one, however I think the way we as men look at the women in our lives is skewed. We think that they want what we want which is not so. The soul of a woman is fundamentally different than that of a man. What I mean is men want to accomplish goals, we want to fix problems, we want to chase objectives, achievements our life path this is our essence.
When we are in relationships we “assume” that what women want is also the same as what we want. Even if you have beautiful conversations about goals and objectives you still are not speaking the same language as women. Women are the ocean… the ocean. Listen to me carefully, they . will . always . want . more. because it is their nature. Just as Kenya said. We have been socially duped into believing otherwise and this, this is the source of problems in relationships.
When the woman in your life is complaining that is not her trying to irritate you for the sake of irritating you. That is her doing her Divine Duty to challenge to be more. She is communicating to you that you are in some way not living up to your potential and it is that Divine Masculine potential that she wants. She wants to wail against you like the raging see and feel you unmoveable like the jagged sea shore. Anything less is un civilized.
It is nothing personal it’s metaphysical. Most likely she is not aware of what she is doing. If she is like most women that are not in touch with their Divine Feminine. Then she will attempt to supplement your unwillingness to meet that energetic challenge with shopping, chocolate, something to fill the void. But nothing can fill the void of the Divine Masculine save the men that are willing to face the challenge of being true to your word with your self, not sweating the small stuff and it’s all small stuff, and being unmovable in the pursuit of your Divine Purpose. And if you don’t know what that is… then that is the first step of thousand miles.
Submitted in love and humility.