Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.
Anais Nin

So I have a bone to pick with men.  This has been on my heart for a moment. Men want happy, satisfied, whole, pleasable women, correct?  This blog is all about how women can treat men better, love and respect men more – find love again in the arms of men… But there is something more to it.

There is something men must do in order to attract the orgasmic woman he desires, the type of woman who relaxes and allow a man’s leadership… Here it is:  Men must accept women for who and what we are. We are not men.  We are woman – or maybe women who have been trained to be men.  But when we learn to become women again, we will desire to share our love with the world.  A woman’s love is uncontainable, uncontrollable, and free like the breeze…  That means, you can enjoy it but you cannot own it…

Yes.  I said it.

We will submit and surrender, honor and respect you, but never will you be able to contain our love for just yourself.  Not any more…

Just as we release a dying paradigm where men were seen as the fatal problem, as the causers of pain, as untrustworthy and so forth…  Men must release a dying paradigm which says that YOUR woman can only love YOU.  This is a part of the madness.

Let us imagine for instance that you are sitting watching a television program.  Some sexy hunk of a man comes onto the screen.  Your woman tries to hold back the movement in her chair as she views this actor doing his thing.  He’s sexy, no doubt.  You get your boxers in a jam because you sense her attraction to this actor.  You get mentally huffed because she won’t say it out loud, she won’t admit it.  She should be able to say it, feel it, free of worry that you might explode.  But why can’t she?  I’ll tell you why.  500 years of patriarchal rule, that is why!

Women are multi-orgasmic, joyous beings, but only when we walk in our authentic feminine glow.  So as we uncover who we are, once again, you too have to recall who you are.  Men are protectors, wise counselors and sages.  You have to get beyond the age old jealousy about YOUR woman having an attraction to other men.  For goodness sake, we ladies have had to get over that one ages ago.  Sure we still fuss and complain when you are attracted to other women, but that too must end.  We have always sensed and known your attraction to other women.  Our grandmothers knew their men were ‘running the streets’, but heaven forbid if someone found out about her running – she would be labeled a whore and probably kicked to the curb, or worse!  A woman’s life might be on the line if her man found out about her “cheating”.

So let’s get real here.  We are no longer pseudo men with big penises trying to combat you at every turn.  We are now suitable Goddesses with warm middles, moisture flowing and ready to love.  We will not debate you, fight you, over power you with words, mistreat you… and at the same time, we ask that you allow us our freedom, even to love another man.

So you think I am crazy?  You think that your woman is fine with having ONLY you…   Ask an honest woman who has been married more than ten years.  Many have learned to cheat and lie so well that we even lie to ourselves.  Ask the women who have daily internet affairs, dream of past lovers, and lie to you, faking orgasms to make you feel whole.  She is dead.  She has no sense of her true desire because she has shut it down to fit the mold.  You feel me?  The issue with shut down is that our shutting down to fit the mold.  There is no way to shut down just a portion of our desire without shutting the entire machine off and tossing our pleasure faculty way out of wack.

The modern relationship paradigm is based on a dying model that has no foundation in nature based fact.  You own me, I own you, together we shall be… Always. “This model of the death-do-us-part, missionary-position couple is just a tiny part of human history,” says anthropologist Kristen Hawkes… Click for this article.

We no longer need it.  What we need is to know… well, let me speak for myself.  What I need is to know that you can honor a sensuous DIVA walking fully in the Bliss light of the moon.  I am multi-orgasmic.  I can make love and receive hugs and divine connection on an unlimited basis.  You have one or two ejaculations and then you must rest.  You have a few hugs and then must retreat to your solitude.  Women and men are different.  It is time to honor that difference.  Women howl during sex because we are calling the next lover! Read Sex At Dawn where anthropologists have documented that fact!

In fact, nature herself would select women to actually be more suited for multi-partnered love.  Did you know that?  Did you know that a man’s sperm has actual spermicide in it?  Why is that?  It is because nature knew that it is woman who would be more likely to have multi-lovers and so a man’s sperm would come equipped to fight off other sperm already taking residence in her womb.  This is not gibberish, this is scientific fact.  If someone has another idea as to why a man’s sperm would have spermicide naturally, please leave me a comment.  LOL!

AND Check this Harvard research article out!  Click for the article… “There is abundant evidence among a range of species that females who copulate with multiple partners are more fertile.”  The current number of women ages 15-44 with impaired fecundity (impaired ability to have children) is a staggering 7.3 million!  That is unacceptable.

Another stunning figure is the 78% of women who are non orgasmic with men during vaginal sex in this country.  It is so because we are or had been for some time, angry at men.  I believe that anger is based on the fact that we ladies allowed our natural sexuality to be completely disregarded and denatured.  But now, I instruct DIVAS to remove that anger and to thrive!  To thrive we need your wisdom.  Is it wise to think you can own another human being?  Is it wise to shun the woman who loves you because she loves all men?  Is it wise to want to be the only King on the planet?  Is it wise to delude yourselves into thinking that your sex drive is greater than that of woman?

Ahh haaa!  And here is the real “discovery” that will rock you.  Women have a far greater sex drive than men!  Yes!  Science proves it.  Women were placed in a room with brain monitors.  The television showed animals, humans, two women, two men, all having sex in separate scenes.  Women were more aroused looking at all types of various sexual settings than men.  Men were mostly aroused when viewing women and women and women and men make love.  Women were aroused viewing animals, same sex couples, and hetero couples!  YES!

This is mostly my quandary as My husband has freed me, lovingly and gently, only for me to find that the men I now see are not as freeing!  What!?  They want to ask me about where I am going next, who I am seeing, who is my boyfriend, who is  my lover?  OMG!  No way!  Right?  And then, when I stand in integrity and tell them the truth, they are disheartened – like a woman! Really?

Now do not get me wrong.  I see my mirror in them.  I am tolerant with them.  I see that they are reflecting older parts of me that still want to own another human being, like an overseer in the days of slavery.  I am currently annihilating that overseer.  I too have been guilty of jealousy, envy, hatred of my man’s natural desire for love from other women… So it’s all good.

But, we have to dig deeper.  This is a spiritual journey that certain individuals are ready to embark upon and I am just a catalyst, leading the way and learning through experience.  My husband has demonstrated love for me even as I unfold my femaleness into the world.  And I will always honor, respect, and revere him as my lover and friend for life.  This was not easy for us, but my husband has the wisdom to know that if I am on shut down mode and cannot be authentic with even myself about my own feelings, that same blocked energy will be alive in our bedroom and relationship.  Right?

Men.  End the quandary.  Open.  Shift.  Explore.  Cultivate sanity.  Do it for your sake and for ours.  Do it for the children.  The time is now.  We must go boldly, together, into a bright new day.  Maybe we can end the madness of the 56% divorce rate in the country.  But we have to do it together and with sound opening to nature based fact.

And if you desire our support, get coaching!

As always, I love you and welcome you comments.  Muah!

JujuMama xoxoxox