I Desire Many Men Who Desire Many Women…

yum

(Vintage Jujumama from July 2009)

Man oh Man!  I am so excited!  I just accepted this new open life of mine. I left the world of monogamy kicking and screaming.  But, once you go Open Universal Love – you never come back to the personal ownership drama.  It’s good to know that I can explore my sacred sensuality and ONENESS in new ways and with luscious men, ay man I choose…

Having my choice of 3 billion men is thrilling.  Why didn’t I see this before?  I feel like everything I need, desire, whatever healing I crave is mine for the choosing.

yummyman

Here is what I really want: I create mystical magical love affairs that serve the purpose of adding quantities of high quality healing bliss to my life.  I want men who understand and respect the fact that Yin and Yang together can create anything.  I want men who will plant their seeds in me – seeds of beauty, seeds of desire, seeds of inspiration – I will make those desires grow until they manifest!  And my kings will see the power of the love we create…

I desire men who know their role in my life.  I desire Tantra Men; Men who give.  I am open to receiving you.  Men who want to see me soar and men who can soar from the catalytic YIN moisture I provide.  I want to be a YIN provider… a soft place to land… I want my Kings to know the purpose of our relationship, the value of the union of souls, the power of the escalating chi we create, the simmering Kundalini, the vitality we make and share.

I want men who take care of themselves mentally, men who are intellectual, men who are leaders, monks, negotiators, and warriors.  I want my men to want me to succeed and make tangible efforts on my behalf, and in the world, as I make equal and opposite efforts on their behalf in the ethereal plane. .. I want my men to get that… love that, need that – Adore that.  I want to adore my men.

I want to allow my “neediness” unfold.  (Oh hell yes I am needy.  I need to see my reflection so that I know who I am!)  I want my men to feel needed by me.  I do need men and women too for that matter – Interdependence….  And I need each one for different reasons.  I want my Kings to understand that my need for one is not a negation of my need for another.  I want them to understand that there is no pecking order, but that there is only love – abundant love, never ending love, enough to go around.  The world is made of love.

I want men who are free.  I want men who want to explore the inner plains and let our combined and individual manifestations appear in the outer plains.  I want metaphysical men, men who get dat.  I want them to allow me my ceremonies, my ritual, my angels, my oracles, allow me to be my magical self; they should get dat.  I definitely get them.  I want men who love the fact that I receive them… I relieve them… I believe in them and thus our powerful magic is recycled forever…

Practically, I want them to whisk me away from my very busy life, away from the work and the kids and the life of a celebrity.  I want them to make love to me and then let me nap on the clouds… I want them to play music for me and buy me dinner, breakfast and then fruits like cherries (my favorite) but organic ones, with fresh juice and Fiji Water…  I feel the need to be cared for.  I feel the need to have strong, protective arms about my being… securing me.  I receive this.  Ummmm… yes.

And I want to nurture men.  I want them to allow me to appreciate them, I want them to know that I am as serious as life itself when I say – honey – you make my life a living heaven.  You make my day, man!  You are hilarious.  You make me laugh.  You are an incredible, respectable, luscious, and kingly, man.   I honor every cell in your body.  I honor every thought in your head.  You ROCK!

e9e7

I want my men to understand my family dynamic.  Respect and love my husband with me, respect and adore my kids with me.  I want men who have ‘open’ women.  Who wants a man with no women?  I want to know their women.  I want to respect their women.  I want to empower their women and their relationships so that they always have what they need, even in my absence.

I want communal men, men who know how to have a cigar with my other men, men who know how to share a beer with my husband.  Men who do yoga, tai chi (yum!) Capoeira, corporate, marketing, chi kung kinda men!  I want diplomatic men, men who are about business, men who are not attached to old ideas, and useless mores.  And I LOVE a techie!  Give me men who know how to hook my nine websites up!  Give me men who know that I have to be online at 10 AM each morning and let them watch me tweet, watch me work, and let me be.  Let them know that I work and let that be OK with them.

I want men who free me up!  Men who adore my freedom and know that my love for them is not something they own, but something they share.  I want calls, I want men checking on me, concerned about my well-being, sending money, love, food, resources of all kinds to make me comfortable.  I receive this… yes!

That is the type of men I attract.  I attract whole men being as whole as I am.  I attract my mirrors, so I know there will be challenges.  The purpose of all relationships is growth.  Let my men get that and work with me through the challenges and let us see the other side of each, and celebrate growth and progress.  Give me men like this in every state so that when I tour, I see them, they greet me, they show up, they adore me and our mission…

I know I have this situation,  right now – out there – waiting for me.  I am ready to be that kind of YIN Goddess, I am ready to nurture you and make your seeds sprout.  Lets make magic together.  I am now taking applications!  As are so many Kweens that I know…

LOL!

For real though.

alicias-party-029

JujuMama xoxoxox

Comments 20

  1. Post
    Author
  2. Surama

    Hell Yes! I love the clarity… So many times we are afraid to say we need…. that there is something that we want from the person in front of us. I am grateful that I am learning to say I need… and being willing to receive. Thank you..

  3. Anonymous

    You started the post by saying that there was a major issue and then you refered to your husband and his success in his relationships. It seems as if your desire is stemming from your need to match his and not your deep personal need to have what you truly desire. You can have whatever you like if your desire is authentically yours. I would suggest that first of all you BE all the things that you require of your men. Especially if you work on NURTURING yourself then the rest of that can easily fall into place, but you have to do the work and let the work come from your own internal desire NOT trying to attain what someone else has (in this case your husband.)

  4. Post
    Author
    jujumama

    Sweet Anonymous – if the desire weren't "authentically" mine – why would it be mirrored in my husband? We attract only who and what we are… I beleive that our authentic selves have been hidden even from our own view and replaced by the desires of the status quo. My husband found the integrity and authenticity to break the mold – therefore, I am essentially a mold breaker too! And my desire for the type of men I described here is absolutely founded… It began when I was 13 only to be shut down by what society says is 'not correct' like "good girls don't" and other such malarkey. I am glad to find her again, my authentic self as revealed by my reflection of a husband. YUMMY! And what you say is true – I have this on my facebook page today… Be who you want to see today… You get what you give. Right?

    Muah! I love you – as you too are my reflection… I have often asked myself "how could this be real? how could I have a desire for so long and have masked it with status quo nonsense…" it does seem surreal… but I surrender, happily.

    And of course I have to nurture myself – this is another thing we are trained out of doing for fear of appearing selfish… But selfish and selfless are both two sides to a spiritual coin. I accept both and I accept that I must do these things for myself in order to see them reflected in my luscious, beautiful, wondrous men!

    Love again!

    Juju xoxoxox

  5. Galactic Woman

    Wow, so many thoughts… first, Im thinking- do you have time for all this??? This sounds SO busy……You'll have to excuse me while I gather my thoughts and gain my footing, I'm still catching the breath I realized I didn't exhale while reading. It's funny, because in theory I am open minded and, "Hey! I'm not gonna be confined to that which is defined for me by society," but if I were to translate my physiological responses as I progressed through this piece, it would be, "Whoa! Wait, NO! We're going deeper. Hold up! I can only handle one man, at most two—ok maybe three" LOL, because these are such revolutionary thoughts to me that do not match any schema's I have for love and relationships.

  6. Galactic Woman

    I dont say any of this in a judgemental way, but more in an ackowledgement of where I am kinda way. It doesn't even mean that I'm not open to it, it just means there is a mental conflict between what I know and the possibility of what is. My question is, "HOW ON EARTH DID YOU RECONCILE THE DISSONANCE BETWEEN WHAT YOU KNEW (via society) AND WHAT YOU HAVE NOW EMBRACED??". I am genuninely curious. How does the transition take place such that you can say, " i have two dates lined up for me, as well as my delicious husband to keep me company" or in a longing way (for his experience) "his relationships are deep and rich and full of spiraling bliss" and even that you want your boyfriend to "respect and love my husband with me"….Please know that I am not at all asking in a critical matter. It's more that I need to know! lol! You were of the traditional mind set once and I imagine you can understand that shock this might be to one's system.

  7. Post
    Author
    jujumama

    Galactic Woman – I hear you sistah! LOL! I certainly know that this is outside of any modern, or contemporary view – on the surface. This took a while for me to get with. If you go back and read my older post like "I want to own him" or "My V-Day Story" you will see that the transition has been a real ride!

    It takes a moment to understand that being duped into believing that a certain relationship style is the only acceptable relationship style is actually a trap. For me, I was trapped. I actually believed that if my husband loved another woman, that he loved me less, in fact, that he is disrespecting me. This I believed until I realized that Love is Abundant and Universal. It cannot be owned by a certain person. Even if he loves me, he can and will always have room for more…

    I wrote two articles in particular of note – The New Paradigm Relationship and The Progressive relationship – these two articles talk about building a strong foundation for love that is needed to expand a relationship. Please don't get me wrong. My husband and I have worked for years to be able to house this new concept.

    It was not easy, pretty or happy! It was a time of growth for me that I did not know if I would survive. But that which does not kill us will always make us stronger. And I do feel stronger today. I feel like a trail blazer and that I am…

    But the road was three years long and still trudging. I am just reaching the point where I feel decent and even happy about the situation. I am just realizing that I have had these desires all along and have masked them behind following the norm. I will not mask my truest self any longer. That is why I blog – to share this journey for others who may be on a similar journey or looking for something that works. I am not an advocate for open relationships – I am an advocate for relationships!

    If you want to now more – read the articles I have suggested and then read "Mon age a Montage" this one tells about how we actually came to harmonize this situation together.

    Love and Light!

    Juju

    1. lantanagurl

      me, too and you are watching my evolution as well. I embraced who I was in the 70's. is anyone left who remembers the magazine VIVA? It was "porn" for women, but oh so much more than pretty boy-toy bodies to look at. I miss that mag. Maybe I should consider starting my own:) I walked away from who I knew myself to be at 17 to embrace who I thought I was supposed to be…societies constraints have never fit me well and caused me decades of depression. It is is freeing to be me again.

  8. Galactic Woman

    Thank you for answering and for sharing. I will read these articles and will forward questions if I have more. I am single now, with no man at all, so I am sure I will. ;)

  9. Kenda

    Kenya!!!! OMG… You have so eloquently spoke what my spirit and mind have been warring over…the question is…AM I READY? … next question…CAN I DISCERN THE PROPER KINGS …
    I am still kicking … screaming has stopped…which means I am getting close… aaahaaa

    (((BIG HUG)))

  10. ken

    Hotep jujumama, I am in total agreement with the BLISS you share I am reading right where the spirit is, and i am feeling the strong vibe of kosmic essence without the EGO stepping in, it is a soaring freedom that I have been receiving me and my mate for 3weeks now (kundalini freedom of YIN and The YANGGGG!!!peace

  11. Polyamorous Princess

    EA all Day! Once again…your boldness n I adore…haha…thats what EA's do! serve it up hakash. keep stretchin n growin us even if it looks or feels awkward. U r such an INITIATE of LIFE! Real recognizes real n I LOVE YA!! So fascinated, so many questions….. Tua 4 Evolutionaries.
    Its interesting that u said it took u a min 4 u to adjust 2 the this paradigm..Ive always been open n fascinated since 12..and I always thought I was weird for it….I mean how many people out there naturally get turned on n r intrigued by their mates love interests? I mean wholistically it really fills/feeds me. So to stretch that concept over to what u personally want n need is even more stimulating….
    Just A few sincere inquiries… is having a husband apart of the old paradigm? What role does the husband or "primary partner" play compared to the boyfriends? (is it simply a matter of having children?) and as it relates to the kids what do they know? how are the boyfriends introduced?

    So curious…God Bless u for answering n providing this much needed wisdom n guidance. Ill b reading the other articles quite soon. time seems to b speeding up fast….

  12. Polyamorous Princess

    EA all Day! Once again…your boldness n audacity I adore…haha…thats what EA's do! serve it up hakash. keep stretchin n growin us even if it looks or feels awkward. U r such an INITIATE of LIFE! Real recognizes real n I LOVE YA!! So fascinated, so many questions….. Tua 4 Evolutionaries.
    Its interesting that u said it took u a min 4 u to adjust 2 the this paradigm..Ive always been open n fascinated since 12..and I always thought I was weird for it….I mean how many people out there naturally get turned on n r intrigued by their mates love interests? I mean wholistically it really fills/feeds me. So to stretch that concept over to what u personally want n need is even more stimulating….
    Just A few sincere inquiries… is having a husband apart of the old paradigm? What role does the husband or "primary partner" play compared to the boyfriends? (is it simply a matter of having children?) and as it relates to the kids what do they know? how are the boyfriends introduced?

    So curious…God Bless u for answering n providing this much needed wisdom n guidance. Ill b reading the other articles quite soon. time seems to b speeding up fast….

  13. Post
    Author
    jujumama

    Hay Poly Princess! Sorry it took me so long to respond. I am so loving your questions…

    1. Having a husband… is it old paradigm. I will say no, not to me, and I do not say that because I have had a husband for my entire adult life. I say that for three reasons… A. I have children and children need yin and yang in their lives. They need that consistent example of both. In the house and on a permanent basis. My husband and I provide this for my off spring – no matter who the man is that fertilized me… You see? But all my kids are his, however, if I had another child that was not – he would assume full responsibility for the permanent yang in that childs life.
    B. Men and women are meant to master duality together. It takes a couple working as ONE to do this and THEN and only THEN can a relationship expand. This is just my theory. If I had not learned what it is to be a woman in monogamy and with one man, I could not be a woman for any other man. And I cannot learn that without my husband who is committed to providing that consistent growth experience to me and I to him. So again, it is the consistency. I see my men sometimes, but I see my husband daily and have had to work out my issues with myself through him… C. COntractually I need one man who brings home the meat from the hunt for me and my off spring. Contractually he needs a woman to receive and prepare that meat for food. So this is a contractual obligation that serves us both. If we did not have that – we could not expand into poly – WHY? Because there is no basis. We formulate a base – all pyramids have a base and then they expand upwards…

    2. You asked about our kids. Our children know everything about our relationships. They know the boyfriends and the girlfriends when possible. My boyfriend once took the kids out so that my hubby and I could have some time. My husband takes the kids out with he and his girlfriends. They are all known to our kids and auntie and uncle…

    Hope this helps

  14. lantanagurl

    Girl, I was just thinking the very same thing yesterday! I need a man in every city I visit:) So far it looks like it's gonna happen right here in my own area and I cannot stop smiling about it. What was a surprise is becoming quite common place. This over 50 grandma keeps attracting the 20 – 30 crowd & I'm not even trying!!! Big Smiles on my face & a very happy camper I am:)

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *