So many women want to know is it necessary to marry. And many woman and men want to marry… It’s almost become a fixation for some women, they feel they cannot be happy without it.
Do I believe that one has to be married in order to be happy? No. Of course not. Happiness is a choice. We can choose at any phase of life to be happy. And we should, because happiness begets happiness. If we are happy single, chances are we will meet happy people and enjoy happy relationships!
Do I believe that without a man, women are doomed? No way! One can spend a lifetime without a man and still enjoy the bounties of life! So can any single man! I don’t even use the word single – instead I use FREE!
Notwithstanding, as a married woman, I believe that marriage is good for me and a needed component in my life, even as I have an Open Marriage. I have come up with a few reasons as to why marriage is so wonderful. Click and enjoy!
Jujumama’s Top FIVE List on why A Good Marriage is fabulous!
1. Marriage ensures that one will be exposed to the Law of Duality.
The law of Duality is one of the Universal Laws just like the Law of Attraction. In a marriage there are two becoming ONE. The law of duality is all about Yin (feminine) and Yang (masculine) and the coming together of these forces for harmony. In each of ourselves, we have yin and yang. When we come into union with a partner, we now have to decide of the two of us, who will be primarily yin and who will be primarily yang – this is obvious as there is now a new unit beyond the individual self. The third unit is the partnership itself.
So in this new unit, we have to have Yin and Yang. Working this scenario out can be a real whopper of a task. Often, in American relationships, there are two STRONG YANGS and fighting ensues until we work this out. So it is a wonderful thing to be able to work this out in marriage because we then create a new skill. It is called adaptability and flexibility (the purpose of yoga). If we can adapt to our roles in marriage, we are more well rounded and balanced people. What a great thing about marriage, when this is adhered to…
If your partner is not in their role, please seek coaching with us, we coach gender harmony all day long…
2. Marriage will increase your overall power to manifest whatever you want on Earth!
To make a baby on this planet, we have to have the coming together of man and woman. Thus, and in like manner, to manifest money, cars, clothing, resources, joy, peace and love, we have to have the coming together of Yin and Yang. In a marriage this is a powerful thing. Have you ever seen a couple who argues all of the time and also has no cash? This is simply due to the fact that the wasted energy in lack of harmony is preventing these two powerful forces called yin and yang to come together and manifest something.
When we use Tantra – or sensual bliss between yin and yang to come together and create – it simply means that the act of sex becomes a ritual and we can create anything from the bedroom. How is this done? Deep science – read more about that here.
3. Marriage will evolve you.
Becoming harmoniously united in love with one person for a lifetime is very evolutionary. You will work out the Law of Duality and master it! You will become the most powerful vortex known to man with your partner. But most important – you will also be able to live the purpose of any relationship – which is GROWTH. The purpose of love relationships are GROWTH – not love – GROWTH. Love is the BENEFIT – GROWTH is the purpose… So, by spiraling upwards over the years with one mate, you will grow out of many older versions of yourself. This may not sound fun, but this is the purpose of life itself – to grow into your best, most powerful, most sustainable and wise self! Marriage with this purpose in mind will ensure this!
4. Marriage is a microcosm of community
We are human beings on the planet earth. But we are not islands. We are interconnected and so the concept of community becomes important. We need one another, we need one another’s gifts and talents to round out our own. Thus, we create community, culture, mores and law. Fabulous!
5. Marriage is a fertile place to raise children.
Because my husband and I have three children, I can speak on this one. Children require a community to be raised. The essence of that community is the individual family unit. This family unit, as I spoke on earlier, is made possible with the harmonious coming together of a man and woman or couple (ok, man and man, or woman and woman as long as one is yin and one is yang).
But children need a real foundation of family in order to thrive, in my humble opinion. Why? They need a consistent example of the yin role and the yang role. Without this, they end up fumbling in their own relationships because they do not know what a relationship is. We have all been there. Living in this country, the level of dysfunctional homes are soaring and we have all had our share of not seeing the roles clearly demonstrated which affect our ability to relate in our own relationships…
So with the evolution of a couple, the growth they experience together, and the living out of the yin and yang roles, they provide this sort of firm foundation for children. Our children get to witness the foundational structure of yin and yang in harmony. Now harmony does not mean that all the days are perfect. Harmony simply means that they see us working to live our roles, with the purpose being growth. This is more than enough. Perfection is evolution in progress!
I would love to hear your thoughts on this…
In terms of an open relationship – well I discuss the ten ways to know you are ready here - Anyone who has a stable family unit can extend things if this is their desire… It is universal law… everything that is established will expand. No need to fight it. But also, no need to rush it. My husband and I have an open relationship because we have done the work to set up a stable foundation of trust and love by utilizing the Law of Duality. He is Yang and I am Yin. He is the leader and I am the Devotee. Both are Equally powerful positions…
Love and Light