So today I was inspired to write this post when I caught an article in Oprah about parents advocating the use of vibrators for teen girls… I dun know, they want to prevent teen sex, so why not allow them to have vibrators? Think on that. Teen girls aside… I’m excited to write about Vibrators, actually. I remember when I got my first one, it was a pink rabbit. I had no idea how to use it and I was 35 years old!! So the lady I bought it from had to explain that the rabbit is for the clitoris and the dildo part, well, that part, I understood….
I bought the vibrator because my girlfriend had gone into business selling them, not because I felt I needed one. I had been married my entire adult life and had gone without, I don’t think I was missing it. In my teens I used my hands and a nice stiff pillow… this was luxurious for me even into adulthood! So I just hadn’t needed (??) a vibrator.
How did you first come to purchase a vibrator? HAY - that brings up an interesting question… do you have a vibrator because you want one or because you need one? Which brings us to the intent of this article (surprise!!)
The way you answer the above question is VERY VERY important and I’ll tell you why. Its time to think deeply about whether we as Goddess women are embracing or replacing the male species with our vibrators… And while we’re at it, we’re going to look at some #goodjuju and best practice when it comes to using a vibrator. If you’re going to use one, you may as well use it magically – maybe call it your magical wand! I’ll explain… read on!
Now before we dig in here, we need to set some ground rules and establish some clear understandings.
- I believe Post Sex Depression (PSD) is REAL, women often want more.
- Some women are angry, resentful, hurt, or too put off by men to bed them.
- Some women have a man but he is out of town… or otherwise unavailable.
- Some women are afraid of pregnancy and STDs
- Some women are simply celibate by choice… maybe combination 1-4?
So these little electronic crowd pleasers are highly sought after pieces of plastic and rubber and other. And one doesn’t have to imagine why it’s so! As you see, these above categories include the plight of the majority of women! Which is probably why according to Betty Confidential, approximately 53 percent of U.S. women report having used a vibrator at some point in their lives, according to the studies. Now, compare that to the only 51 percent of adult women who are currently married. (BC see full article here) Another interesting note is that 45 percent of men have used them! giggle…
But what is the real skinny here, the metaphysical skinny on vibration therapy?
Well, personally, I have always had questions about it because I feel that these vibrators are fostering a lack of sensitivity to actual MEN and also I’ve felt that vibrators make it such that connection with actual MEN is no longer needed or desired. I know everything under the sun has two purposes (one yin and one yang), or every poison is also a medicine; but, I hadn’t found the mystery medicine in the idea of using a little battery powered machine to cum daily without a man… until now!
So here is the trick. And I have done serious meditation and reading on this one:
HOW TO USE A VIBRATOR to Embrace not Replace your man… By: Kenya K Stevens
Magic Wand Lesson One
- Wash your vibrator and sprinkle it in sea salt water to cleanse
- Dry it off and use a nice rose essential oil to purify it.
- As you oil the wand… think of it becoming magical… think about what you want to create. Wash all oil from vibrator…
- Now lay down and before you touch the vibrator work on your entire body with your hands and rose oil mixed with general massage oil.
- You should spend much time touching other parts of your body as you do your clitoris and vagina! This is very important… and as you touch yourself everywhere, Breathe Deeply and slowly…
- Find pleasure for at least 20 minutes just touching your own arms, legs, abdomen…
- Try to find the pleasure in spirit touch arousal before going to your clit and Yoni – this is a JujuMama trick to staying open to connection and spirit and men and self… not just going right for the vibration.
- Now when you are very aroused – begin thinking about your objective.
You are ready to begin having luscious orgasms to that end. Each time you cum, and all the way through the exercise, make sure you are sending all bliss to that one sweet objective you have chosen.
This is so fun and easy. We do not mean to replace men with our electronic items, we want to embrace men with them, and believe me, it works. This is how I calm my sweet husband down sometimes after a disagreement. He leaves and I get the rose oil out…
And so your vibrator will now foster connection, build trust, and increase orgasmic potential and sensitivity. Give it all to spirit baby.
Love and Light…
Kk
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I dont have a vibrator so can I perform this or something similar to this during a masterbation session instead? I had a vibrator years ago. It was a gift from a lover and we used it together but I never felt compelled to use it when he wasn't around & when we broke up I threw it away. I cant say it gave me much pleasure. A large part of the enjoyment I get from sex is the physical contact…The weight of a man on top of me the feeling of him inside me and surrounding me at the same time. That can not be replicated by a vibrator soooo I just dont like them.
I agree with you… Sure, please use this through meditation. The ceremony is for those who are addicted and use the vibrator like one would a pack of cigarettes… I enjoy the real thing way more. WAY more.
hell yes…weight of him is very very good indeed. need to get some rose oil & rose quartz really soon:) I use my vibrator with my lover cuz he likes it that way. I could never see it again & be perfectly fine.
The vibrator is not to replace your man, it is to enhance your orgasm. Most women do not want to use a vibrator because they enjoy the man's body and sweat and everything that goes with that experience or they think masterbation is taboo. How could something that feels so good be so bad? Vibrators are for the orgasm, you control your orgasm and if a man can watch you use a vibrator bravo to him because usually there is always more left for him after so no need for him to feel jealous because of the response. Cock rings are great because they can stop the blood circulation and keeps your man erect, if it vibrates it turns your man into a vibrator. Women who use vibrators are empowered, a woman's body is like a playground a man can only tap into the passion between her legs. Focus on the orgasm and it can change your life.
Good points… so would you teach mansturbation techniques to your teenage daughter… how would you share this insight with the youth? I have never tried a cock ring… My husband and lovers stay erect becasue they know that male ejaculation is not as powerful as male full body orgasm… they love to go there so they practice Iron Crotch i2
I don't have a kid at all but if I did I would not give MY teen masturbation techniques because I feel like that would scar her for life. I may encourage her to get her self satisfaction on but hell no. What are you going to do next, video tape her losing her virginity when she comes home for winter break? I would not want to rob her of the joy of personal discovery. I'm not too far removed from adolescence (in my mind anyway) and that would really be gross.
Doesn't taking your mind off the sex act ruin your orgasm? I mean what if your career goals involve people that you don't even want to sleep with and the idea of cumming is just a no go if they cross your mind? I actually don't like dildo's at all. A big plastic dong in my yoni is a complete turn-off but I did have an aparatus that attached to my breasts and my clit that I had a remote. That was dope. I want to try the ritual without the wand. I can think of relationship goals and cum but career folk cumming to mind would ruin the fun.
idk if I would give her lessons or recomend a vibrator…but u could!
please do not put essential oil into your vagina. use rosewater…essential oils are highly concentrated substances with many properties besides their fragrance and should always be diluted with a neutral oil like jojoba, sesame (not toasted sesame, please!) or even ghee. a very very little of an essence goes a LONG way. test it-the essential oil- first on your inner arm to make sure you have no allergies.
and use a rose quartz egg, please…preferably one with a cord attached. a small piece of rose quartz may be difficult to reach to get out, and what goes into yoni must come out in an easy, timely way….
pleasure is a woman's birthright. why anchor our pleasure to men? it keeps us helpless and desperate.
Men are not mobile sex toys! And news flash, women are more sexual than men…more genital nerve endings, etc etc. So we can take much much more pleasure than most women experience with a man.
Yes, a woman may give herself so much ecstasy alone with her hands and/or toys that she will not feel much desire or need for a man afterward, but just WHAT is so terrible about that? Men are OPTIONAL…especially if you do not wish to have children or get married. We are totally complete without one and nothing will ever change that though our culture insists that if we do not have or need a man we are strange, sick, weird etc….I must say JJMM I am a bit surprised by this attitude of yours. It makes sense if one is already in a relationship, but a single woman? Sex toys do not foster hatred or indifference to men, not at all. That attitude is not caused by the toys, it must already be in the woman. No man is a source for women, for anything-not love, not pleasure. Those things come from within us; we either feel them within and share them, or we do not, and waste so much time and energy chasing men to "get" love and pleasure "from" them. Doesn't work, never has.
By the way, giving yourself lots of juicy pleasure on your own tends to attract men-you know the deal: you have, so you receive………..tee hee!
1000s of times higher?! OMG we are done!
Well, woman have more sexual potential, though that exponential difference cannot be literally true: even men have "only" 10x or so more testosterone than woman. But as a consequence of evolution & Biology, men get off faster, easier, & have a more ready drive/think more often about sex. Since the brute facts of what is an advantage re: perpetuation of genes for each sex dic(k)tates that impregnating many woman is much more successful at it. Not a moral argument or conscious strategy: just accounts evolutionarily for why men tend to be much more visual, ready & sadly may connect less holistically, sex to emotions. But each sex can teach the other great intuitive lessons about yin & yang energy, & delight + real reverence in & for the other's arch-typical & specific manifestation of sex/presence.
Though woman's sexuality can be as deep, mysterious & awe inspiring as a darkening ocean at sundown.
Brilliant! The last paragraph about using tobacco as a ritual instead of an addiction (poison and medicine all in one) is very powerful. Only a person who has taken to time to look within could say and understand such powerful words. I tip my hat to ya.
Entering into an activity with certain intention–rather than from reaction to, well, whatever–truly makes all the difference in the world.
Great post and I leave it knowing more.
Thanks for sharing.