Well folks. I don’t usually get into topics of race, hence my name on Huffington Post: Post-Racial Black Girl; An oxymoron of course. I believe I am a cosmic being. I do not belong to any race. I am Universal by design – one with all beings…
Anywhoo. This is a video interview about the Black community and it’s relationships. The idea is the hosts wanted to pit polyamory vs polygamy, which I think is hilarious. When I think of polygamy – the idea that one man should marry many women to be sexually faithful to him – I roar with laughter. The fact is this:
The sexual hunger of the female, and her capacity for copulation completely exceeds that of any male. To all intents and purposes, the human female is sexually insatiable..
That is all. Polygamy my foot. Imagine taking 30 million angry, non orgasmic, frustrated, women and dividing them into groups of ten giving each group one man to make love with and share. You’re talking World War III! Just silliness…
Watch this video and hear the debate Polygamy vs Polyamory. Carl and I are on the side of open love, and the hosts are fighting for polygamy. Very fun! Then later check the review of the video below created by the brilliant and beautiful Lesley Travernier. Awesome!
Review: Lesley Travernier
This was an excellent interview! I found it very, very informative!
I was impressed with how well Kenya and Carl responded to very tough, pointed questions.
I also felt the hosts were, although quite doubtful, very gracious, respectful listeners and quite honest with their line of questioning.
I liked how Carl answered the questions around polyamory and how that can potentially benefit the African American community.
And I really loved how Carl made it clear, that it’s not so much the relationship structure that is the solution to the relationship issues in the black family, as much as it is the purpose of relationships – that being growth and development. Carl’s description of an egalitarian community, where everything is shared, including sexuality and the implication that the benefit to this would be the elimination of the ownership mentality, jealousy, and pettiness was thought-provoking.
Unfortunately, there just wasn’t enough time to really explain in depth how the Progressive Love tenets would enable people to be successful at polyamory.
The discussion of homosexuality in the modern world vs. same-sex intimacy on the African continent (modern and ancient) that is not sexual in nature, I felt was on point. It’s true that men walk around holding hands in African countries as well as in India and other countries. So I understand what Carl means about ‘homosexuality’ in western society being so extreme as a result of men and women lacking that kind of intimate same-sex contact.
Carl packed in a lot of information in a very short time. So I think the hosts may have been overwhelmed by the points he made and weren’t quite prepared to ask him question in a very thoughtful way.
At one point, the male host asked Carl about how Kenya’s male partners are chosen and by whom. I felt that, behind that question, the host was wondering about men’s fear that his wife/gf will choose a man that will disrespect her and hence shame him or she might choose someone that is ‘better’ than him. It was very refreshing that Carl insisted that the woman chooses based on her desires and that may change from time to time.
The key question appeared to be: Where was this the norm in ancient Africa?
According to the Stevens, human beings lived this way prior to 10,000 years ago, prior to the advent of agriculture. Without having read, Sex at Dawn, the hosts really were taken aback by this response.
The hosts asked another good question: how do you handle having more children with other partners? I enjoyed Kenya’s explanation that paternity is a western concept and furthermore the baby belongs to every one in the community. And I appreciated how Kenya explained the science that disproves humans as a monogamous species.
The interviewer raised a good point that polygny is NOT accepted in the Christian west, yet is accepted in many parts of Africa and the Middle East where Islam predominates.
I liked Carl’s rebuttal about women owning the community/family and men protecting the ‘nucleus’ of that structure, prior to Islam and Christianity.
“So, you are saying homosexuality is NOT wrong?”
I also enjoyed Kenya’s bold proclamation that she does encourage her daughter to be ‘free’. And that she will magnetize beautiful men, who will protect her, provide resources, and who will support her. I wish all young girls were taught these ideas by their mothers!!!
Is polyamory a free for all? Can we handle this as a westernized group of people?
The host argued that this sounds simple; the sales pitch is nice, but in reality this would be a very complex situation to live successfully. And that’s at the crux of it. The belief that modern humans cannot get past jealousy and the ownership mentality.
Kenya, there’s only so much talking you can do. The proof is in the pudding…