Men are in deep need of good healing…
I went to a tantra event this past weekend and it was made very clear to me….. Women have hurt men and we must heal them as well. We have to take responsibility for creating men that view us as “independent, free, & bossy”. This has pushed our men to exactly the kind of men we fear, dislike, avoid or become addicted to.
Many men are reclaiming this honor and taking direct action to heal women. As women have the same responsibility to surrender and trust men so they can trust us as well. Accepting men into our presence, speaking kindly and loving to them will begin the process. Most of us say “oh I do that all the time”. Well let’s see. Check the examples below:
If a less than attractive or successful man approaches you or simply any man that you deal with on a daily basis (boss, coworker, fellow student, teacher, tailor) approaches in a kind matter, wanting to help or asking us about our day how do we react?
“I’m fine ~ I don’t need help, I got it, why do u ask?”
Has any woman ever answered this way instead?
” Thank you, actually I need your advise, help or opinion”
” I would love your help, you’re such a blessing, I appreciate you”
” I’m alright, I’ve been meaning to ask you as well – How can I help you, are you ok?”
” I’m here for you, here to assist you”
Do you think if we used the second set of responses we would be looked at weird…. Well probably in the beginning yes, lol. Men are conditioned to be pushed away, they have been told women are no good, that we will hurt them, take advantage of them, call them useless. So what kind of actions will we see from them. As a medical person I like to call the repercussions of this kind of negative programming, symptoms….
Some men no longer open doors, call to check in, help you with your bags <— All symptoms of being told, “I got it, I’m independent don’t need a man.”
Some men choose not pay for the date, help financially, buy you things, provide for you <—- More symptoms of an independent self reliable woman who has learned to not count on anyone for help.
Often men won’t say how they really feel, feels distant, can’t be figured out <—- Even more symptoms of our non caring, making fun if he’s vulnerable, chastising or punishing him if he has done something not to our liking.
I could go on and on with the symptoms but we all really just want to get to the treatment right ladies? And gentlemen.
Become more subtle with your men; listen. don’t question or argue about what he is sharing with you. Touch men, rub their chest, look into their eyes, hug them, appreciate them. Praise them and point out the good instead of the bad. If he has acted inappropriate its really discouraging to point continuously to what he has done. Just think, would you want this done to you?
Men are our warriors, providers, healers, fathers, sons, brothers. If we heal just one, it will change his world, if he changes, based on your nurturing, another man will follow. Soon all men will reclaim their rightful place as men of the world. Brilliant men who serve and worship women and protect/serve and provide.
As much as we women claim we don’t want or need men to be there for us like this, we constantly nag about the lack of good men out there, the dependent mamas boys, the abusive arrogant ones or the players of the world. Well ladies, we placed them here, we birthed them, raised them, played with them, went to school with them, had lunch played sports and shared our hearts with them. So it should be up to us to bring them back to their original state of true Men!
I will from now on look deeply into all men to find their bountiful goodness… and surrender to them. I am going to heal men, will you join me ladies?
With healing love,
Jhos the Diva <3
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